CASE IN POINT
Comments I’ve collected from around the web from articles about this website and harassment in gaming.
Ah yes, those vulnerable female emotions. Such delicate flowers we are!
“I am male by the way.”
Some extremely flawed logic.
Jenny Haniver- just another uptight bitch.
The Scientist
“I’m threatened by the presence of women in the activities I enjoy; expect to be harassed.”
Bringing console wars to a new level.
There are so many assumptions here. So many.
Online gaming: full of fat attention whores. It’s infallible logic.
Don’t see it; therefore, it doesn’t happen.
Succinct.
17 Comments
Carlos
01 Oct 2012 09:10 am
I cant believe the number of you guys that getsa all uptight coz ur being beaten by a chick ! lol – So immature guys – U give us ALL a bad name… so so sad.
Never mind, I know she got some REAL friends to play with – unlike U bunch of suckers.
man i needed to get that out – since i read this piece in the metro.
All the power to ya Jenny.
Berty
02 Oct 2012 05:10 pm
From reading this site, i would say that Jenny Haniver is a lesbian that hates men.
Jenny Haniver
02 Oct 2012 09:10 pm
Dude, my husband is going to be so shocked when he finds out.
Sancho Blood
11 Oct 2012 10:10 pm
from reading this site i see that ppl are retarded lol its only children that give girls problems in games even if they are 18+ they are still child like, doesn’t matter what gender you are games were made for anyone to play not just guys, and also girls aren’t the only ones in the kitchen I spend time there myself lol.
sarah
02 Nov 2012 06:11 pm
It’s really quite a shame to see that a lot of these males have been brought up in such shitty environments where they believe it’s acceptable to be abusive and demeaning towards women. Good on you for having this site, I am sick to death of being harassed and mocked simply because I’m female. Gender should not make a difference AT ALL, it’s really not that hard to understand.
Namef
14 Nov 2012 07:11 am
Lesbian
draonich
19 Nov 2012 08:11 am
Dumbass.
DevilDoll
20 Nov 2012 08:11 am
I completely hear where you’re coming from Jenny. I have had the exact same thing happen to me on many different platforms INCLUDING PC. I even recently got doubt from my sweetheart when he asked if I really wanted to be exposed to all the ugliness, because he can’t “protect” me from it. I don’t need his protection, and people calling me lesbian, butch, fat, etc. doesn’t make me suddenly need to jump up and run to check in the bathroom to see if my image has altered to the state of what the half wits have judged me to be simply because they’re threatened.
I don’t know why more men can’t be like the VERY few I’ve found while gaming who are supportive to my gaming by simply partying with me and not making a single comment about my sex/status etc. We have a great time whatever we end up playing and whoever gets owned doing so.
I take a lot of pride, as I’m sure you do in not having to be “carried” by my party members, and in holding my own even on extreme difficulty settings. The last thing that will cast a shadow over my gaming experience are people who leave us in doubt as to whether their balls have dropped or not. But it does make it extremely annoying to constantly be harangued by it every time without fail, and to learn to expect it from them.
“Oh my god you sound like a phone sex operator, how much a minute baby?”
“I just wanna give you a shower, a golden shower” <– uh… eww?
And every single sound byte you've already included in your blog.
I hear ya, and I'll watch your blog as a fan of another strong female gamer who isn't afraid to stand up to the opposition, and voice loud enough for the girl gamers our there to be heard.
Thank you.
Gryphon Osiris
07 Dec 2012 05:12 pm
I’ve always wondered if the guys who do this kind of stuff are the ones who are or were bullies in school, or in fact were the ones who were bullied. If it is the former then it means that they must have a need to hurt others in order to feel good about themselves, but if it is the latter then it means that they needs the anonymity of the Interwebs to hide behind because they cannot show the same level of aggression in reality because the tend to lose. Either way they need both the anonymous nature of the Web to keep their ego strong, but at the same time have a need to be the center of attention in order to feel self worth.
It has been said that there is nothing as pure, or as cruel as a child (bonus points if you know where that came from), but I think what is worse is the child who grew older, but never grew up. In my 20+ of gaming, from the day of the original Nintendo to the modern consoles and computer games, I have found that much of the misogynistic comments come from those in the age range of 12 to 25. It makes me wonder if the root cause of it is they are angry with some female figure in their life (mother, grandmother, sister, aunt, teacher, ect) and they are transposing that anger onto every female figure they meet. Or have they been taught through either family or society that men are dominant of women and must show such by brute strength and force?
In the end, I am glad that I have something that these people do not have: Perspective. If you treat people poorly, then everyone else will respond to you in kind.
Nikki (PMS Tenshi)
08 Dec 2012 12:12 pm
I guess while it’s apparent that men make a LOT of assumptions here, it’s only fair that I do the same. Right? Right!
I’ve concluded that men can’t handle their “He Man Woman Haterz Club” being infiltrated by a chick who happens to love the same shit as they do. God forbid that we actually play well, play badly, are fat, are skinny, are whatever… we’re screwed. Whatever we do/say/think is up for criticism. I’ve put up with it myself from both young boys, all the way up to 40-something year old men.
Gentlemen, give your egos a rest.
Sincerely,
Female console/pc gamer for 12 years.
Ashley
15 Dec 2012 05:12 am
I’m not a gamer even a little bit, but I live with some guys that talk like this on the games that they play as well as in their real lives. It’s not as harsh with me, but I still get the “get back into the kitchen” or “you don’t know anything, you’re a woman” comments all the time. I really enjoyed reading your blog because it gives me hope that not all women will just take it in stride as “boys just being boys” or that they’re just saying these things because it’s anonymous, and maybe more women and halfway decent men will realize that this kind of thing isn’t okay. Keep it up!
Femblaster
13 Jan 2013 08:01 am
It’s quite simple…simple bitches.Lol.
If you cant take the heat,keep your ass in the kitchen!
And make me a SAMMICH.)
The Sebmeister
29 Jan 2013 06:01 am
Personally, this issue isn’t too much of a concern to me, since I don’t use a mic on Xbox live nor do I talk that much on PC either. But whenever I come across a girl (which is actually quite common), I don’t come across a chauvinistic. If they are dicks, I’m a dick back and if I’m in a trolling mood, Ill troll them, but never ask for their number. This is a game people, a game. Its bad enough that we let it get to marrying via Facebook but this is the epitomy of stupid. I actually commend Jenny Haniver for taking the time to do this, and as a male hope that she succeeds in this very interesting project. Very well done!
Bread
03 Mar 2013 08:03 am
You are doing really good work with your blog! Keep up with it and don’t give in!
Konfess
11 Mar 2013 04:03 am
My Mom was born in 1946, imagine “Eight is Enough” meets “Little House on the Prairie”. The house she grew up in didn’t get indoor plumbing until 2 years after I graduated high school. At the age of twenty she worked at a small local department store as a cashier, and didn’t go back to work after I was born. My Mom spent the majority of her life in the kitchen.
There is some bullying in K & 1st, but the floodgates don’t really open until 2nd. And it comes from all directions and both sexes. I’m not saying to sterilize the environment. Talk to your children, prepare them and educate them in how to deal with the situation. I suspect what you are documenting is the segment of society that grew up unsupervised. Or they may have been told that this is a kill or be killed world, so it is best not to be killed.
Lastly the human male can produce around 170 million gamete per day, the human female produces one a month. That equates to 5 billion to 1 per month. We can argue who exerts more energy or mass, but I say that is irrelevant. Maybe there isn’t a direct correlation with the drive to reproduce and the production of gametes. Again if one or both parents took a more active guiding role this kind of behavior wouldn’t be so common place. I’m not going to give my recommendations on when to start, except it is probably 4 years sooner than you think.
Clearly damage has been done with past generations, we can only hope for future ones. Maybe theirs will improve, where our’s did not.
MountainOutOfAMolehill
09 May 2013 09:05 am
You need to grow up jenny, everyone trolls everyone on the internet. And please lets not pretend this is exclusively happening to females and they don’t also troll.
Seems like you couldn’t handle words thrown at you while gaming, and now your actively searching for similar situations for your blog to rant about. As a result it seems you have attracted other weak minded people that cannot deal with being trolled.
MountainOutOfAMolehill
09 May 2013 09:05 am
Once your met with trash talk, you need to trash talk back or ignore it, It has absolutely nothing to do with gender, that’s just the ammunition supply.
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