Guy loses to me in a match, screams at me, and then looks me up on Facebook to message me. Nothing but class.
This match was laggy because Call of Duty has server issues. Everyone knows it. Some people like to blame it on other people “lag switching”, which is why this guy is screaming at me about “hacking” and “lag switches”.
RMP = Random Male Player
RMP1: [singing] Turn on your hack light! Ol’ Jenny the hacker.
[final kill replays; the connections lags]
RMP1: LOOK AT THAT LAG SWITCH!! [giggles] LOOK AT THE LAG SWITCH!!!
RMP2: Say Jenny, are you a [unintelligible]?
RMP3: You fucking piece of shit.
RMP4: Hacker! Nice laggin’.
RMP3: You suck some fuckin’ nerd motherfucker’s dick to get that hack, you dumb cunt?!
RMP3: Nice lag switch, whore. Lemme back out so I can report the fuck outta you.
That same night, I get a message on Facebook:
So yeah, that’s totally rational and normal behavior. Totally.
RMP = Random Male Player
XgodieMinor69X = Idiot
RMP1: So you gotta be a specialist to get that Reaper?
Me: No no no no, you just have to get, um, field orders? Like you have to get a care package for it, and then, sometimes it’s the Reaper.
RMP1: Oh, okay.
XgodieMinor69X : Oh my god, whisper my name please.
Me: …You’re a fucking moron. Um, it varies for every-
After the match, I received the following text message from him:
User PHATDOG decided he had an issue with me, and things progressed from annoying to a little rapey pretty quickly.
RMP = Random Male Player
PHATDOG = Moron
RMP1: Oh I need to clean this damn fishtank.
PHATDOG: Hey Jenny.
PHATDOG: You on your period or something? Cuz you didn’t do too hot. Being a leader. Of the other bitches that were on your team.
Me: [heavily sarcastic] You are just adorable.
PHATDOG: Jenny Hanoverfist. Eating chicken nuggets.
RMP2: Are you… Are you fat?
PHATDOG: Yeah, are you fat? We were wonderin’.
Me: Keep talking dude. Let it all out. Let all that anger out. It’s okay- we’re here for you, man.
RMP2: I won. Why would I be angry if I won?
PHATDOG: Hey is your- is your middle name… eatin’… And your real last name “Hanoverfist”? Jenny Eatin’ Hanoverfist? [giggles]
RMP3: That’s just… That’s just wrong. Now I feel bad dude. That’s pretty mean.
PHATDOG: What are you, her internet boyfriend?
PHATDOG: Girls like that come on this Xbox for attention. They live for it.
RMP3: Dude, dude- girls can like games just like guys.
PHATDOG: Woah woah woah- girls like Pinterest, bro. She’s either a lesbian or-
[everyone talks at once]
RMP3: My girlfriend games.
PHATDOG: Yeah well your girlfriend’s probably fat and-
I played a game then backed out of the lobby after I got sick of hearing sexist jokes. I then received this message, which is apparently slang for ‘slut’:
To which I responded:
Then he sent me this voice message:
I’ve reported him to Xbox LIVE, but I’d honestly be surprised if they took any action, given that he has apparently had an account for 10 years.
On the rare occasion that someone sends me a completely ridiculous voice/text message (like someone asking for my age, if I have a boyfriend, etc.), I have this compulsion to mess with them. The last time I posted about something like this, it was a guy asking me for a picture. This time, it was a guy who, out of nowhere, messaged me and was weirdly insistent that I couldn’t be a woman. And wanted a voice message as proof that I was.
And it’s like, dude- just Google me. You’d find like ten fucking hours of my obnoxious voice all over this website.
My group had just joined a lobby and were waiting to start the game, when I received this message.
I laughed, the game started, and we were winning by a healthy amount. But then ExpLOdinG nEWb backs out in the middle of the game (presumably because he’s losing, badly).
I messaged him this (because if you’re going to make stupid sexist jokes, and then quit in the middle of a match like a whiny loser, why not):
His response made my laugh my ass off:
Because looking at his record, ExpLOdinG nEWb has over 400 hours logged in this game, and has completely maxed out his prestige. Just like me. Only my stats are considerably better.
So I called him out on it:
And then he didn’t want to play anymore.
Monday’s post apparently struck a chord with quite a few of you, possibly due to how graphic some of the language was, and the fact that it just didn’t stop.
I received quite a number of emails and comments containing questions that I think need to be addressed, especially since I received some of these questions multiple times. I’ll be updating the FAQ section with the information in this post.
Yes. Absolutely I do. They are violating the Xbox LIVE code of conduct, and I take the time to file complaints on all of them. If someone is just doing something stupid and inane like repeatedly saying my name and asking me “to date them” or talking about how they think I’m hot, or ugly, no- I don’t report them. Because while they are being obnoxious, they aren’t breaking any rules. But if they ask to see my tits, call me a fat cunt, or talk about how much they want to rape me, I don’t hesitate to file a complaint. And if you’re being harassed for your gender, race, or perceived sexuality, you should be filing complaints too. That shit is crossing a line.
I don’t know. I’d like to imagine it does, especially when I file complaints for voice or text messages that I receive, because the proof is right in my inbox. But the fact of the matter is, Xbox LIVE doesn’t send you a notification saying, “We banned user XxXredhot69erXxX for the remarks they made to you!”. The system isn’t perfect, even Microsoft will admit that- but they do indeed ban people for violating the code of conduct. They just don’t notify anyone but the person being banned.
It’s not realistic for the site I run. I keep the names on text messages, because all I have to do is take a screenshot. And I video record the audio messages I receive, because they are only up to 30 seconds long, and all I have to do is point my camera at the TV screen. But mostly, I post audio recordings. There is no way for me to prove which gamertag is attached to which comment, short of videotaping every gaming session I have so that people can see the little microphone icons light up next to the gamertags of the people talking.
And quite frankly, I don’t have the time for that. I don’t get paid to run this website, and it already consumes a tremendous amount of my time. And I’m glad to give that time. I believe this site is important, because it’s a documentation of the kind of behavior female gamers encounter simply because of their gender. But I can’t dedicate any more time/effort to this project than I already do- I have a separate life outside of gaming, and this website.
I love this question, because it implies that I’m some Felicia Day-level celebrity and that everyone who games knows about this site. This is not even close to true. This website has a solid fanbase at this point (and you guys are awesome), but there are literally millions of people who play Call of Duty. And I can promise you right now that this website does not have millions of viewers. I wish it did, that would be fuckin’ sweet! I’d be like the commander of a small army! It’s just simply not the case. The people who end up on this website aren’t saying these things to “troll me and end up on the website”. They’re just stupid, and loud.
If you guys have any other questions that you’d like addressed, please don’t hesitate to email me. Or hit me up on Facebook, or Twitter. This website is here to provide documentation, and promote discussion.
And now here’s a message I received the instant I joined a lobby last night.